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Why Conforming to Diet Culture isn’t for Me

Why Conforming to Diet Culture isn’t for Me

As 2018 approached, I found myself mentally planning the diet I would go on come January. At first I was convinced that ‘Veganuary’, going Vegan for the whole of January, was the way to go. I would surely loose stones and finally get back to my pre-baby size and weight. So, I continued to enjoy my food over the Christmas break, knowing that in a weeks time I would change my outlook on life and make things ‘better’ over night. Oddly enough just a few hours into January, I realised that all I’d achieved by conforming to the New Year diet culture was finding a direct route to failure. Followed by disappointment, accompanied by misery and a constant state of ‘hangry’.

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Overindulging once in a while is ok –

Once the cold hard reality of my love of meat set in, I knew it was time to re-assess my weight loss goals for 2018. Starting with asking myself if I really need to lose any weight at all. Granted I’m not as small as I used to be, but I’m also by no means obese. I’ve had two children which has changed my body, in some ways irreversibly. I’ll never get rid of the stretch marks and I’ll always have a ‘mummy tummy’ as a result of them. So even if I spent the next few months starving myself, I’m not sure I’d be able to achieve the desired effect anyway.

With all of this running through my mind, I can’t help but think that overindulging once in a while is OK. Whether, it’s a birthday, a holiday or a takeaway night ‘just because’, treating ourselves isn’t the end of the world. I’m not saying you should constantly gorge on rubbish food because you feel like it, there wouldn’t be any benefits to that. What would be a benefit though, is enjoying a little of what you fancy every now and again.

Passing on healthy habits –

At the point of writing this, my eldest daughter is coming up to three years of age. She’s bright, intelligent and gets more aware of her surroundings every day. Having struggled with unhealthy eating habits for a lot of my life, the last thing I want to do is pass on poor habits to my girls. They both watch my every move, so it’s up to me to make sure I pass on healthy habits, to make sure that their relationship with food is the best that it can be.

There’s already so much negativity in the world regarding the way we look. The ‘perfect’ body image is forced into our subconscious everyday. Every Lifestyle blog I’ve come across has posts discussing the problems associated with the media and body image. I can only imagine how much worse this will get as our children get older. I want them to know and most importantly believe that they are beautiful. I want them to appreciate all that is positive about themselves and to realise that what the media portrays as ‘perfect’, couldn’t be further from the truth.

Everything in moderation –

I know this sounds like a cliché, but I truly believe in the power of everything in moderation. That includes food and exercise. In the past I’ve eaten too much food and not exercised enough. For a lot of my life, I’ve exercised far too much and eaten very little. Both of these scenarios did little for my health, mentally and physically. Adopting an everything in moderation attitude has been one of the healthiest choices I’ve ever made.

So, this year I’m saying goodbye to diet culture. I’m going live an everything in moderation kind of life. I’m going to eat healthily, treat myself once in a while and continue to exercise regularly. I truly can’t see the point in restricting my diet so much that it strips the joy out of life. I don’t want food to be at the forefront of my mind, when what I really should be thinking about is family, work and other things that make me happy!

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Three Major Life Mistakes you’re Making Right Now

Three Major Life Mistakes you’re Making Right Now

This isn’t a post to ridicule you for doing things in your life that I don’t think you should. It’s more of a post to identify our weaknesses as human beings. I’m not saying everyone makes these mistakes, but a high proportion of the population will at some point have given in to the negative nature of the points I’m about to make. Myself included.

If we never made such mistakes then we would never learn. We’d forever be stuck in a negative cycle. That’s why it’s important to highlight these points and to identify ways in which we can change our thought processes, making life a much more positive experience.

It’s only since I had children that I’ve truly been able to accept who I am as a person. I was always too ugly, too fat, too thick or too broad. For as long as I can remember I have succeeded in casting a negative light over myself, thus letting all of my positive points to wither away. I’m only too aware of what negative thought processes can do to a young mind. So now that I have two girls, it’s up to me to show them that there are so many more positives than negatives in life and learning to love our good points is truly the best route to happiness.


Here are three major life mistakes that so many of us are making right now:


You care too much what people think –

Caring what people think goes hand in hand with being human. It’s good to care what some people think to certain extent, as the last thing you want to do is become indifferent to everyone around you. The trick is to find a middle ground, where you listen to others but only take on the advice that you agree with, or that is relevant to your situation. You will always find people who want to force their opinion on you, but knowing how to nod and smile without taking all of their words to heart is a very adult and humbling way to live.

You view your body in a negative light –

The beauty of our bodies is that we can change them. So if you aren’t happy with what you see, there’s no reason why you can’t take steps to work towards what you feel will be a better you. Whether that’s eating a healthier diet, exercising more or any other healthy ways to make you feel good. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t take stock of all that’s good about your body too.

Take mine for example; I’ve spent years trying to be the thinnest person in the room and making myself utterly miserable in the process. These days though my body is bigger than it used to be, it has dimples, stretch marks and it definitely has more wrinkles that it used to. I have never been happier though and that’s because I choose to concentrate on all that is good in my life. I exercise these days to keep myself fit and healthy, not to be skinny.

You don’t live in the present often enough –

I’m not going to use this section to bang on about how you should take up mindfulness. I do however, love the concept and recommend giving it a go if it’s something you’re interested in. This is simply a prompt to remember to bring yourself back to the present when your mind starts to drift. Don’t get me wrong it’s good to plan for the future and to have a clear idea of where you’re headed, but spending too much time thinking about what’s yet to happen can take you away from the now.

Not living in the present often enough can lead to you missing out on so much. Sometimes it’s just a case of putting your phone down for five minutes and taking in what’s around you. It’s not always easy to achieve, but half of the worries that play on your mind probably won’t materialise anyway, so if you can use the present to distract yourself you’ll save yourself so much stress along the way.


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