Three Major Life Mistakes you’re Making Right Now

Three Major Life Mistakes you’re Making Right Now

This isn’t a post to ridicule you for doing things in your life that I don’t think you should. It’s more of a post to identify our weaknesses as human beings. I’m not saying everyone makes these mistakes, but a high proportion of the population will at some point have given in to the negative nature of the points I’m about to make. Myself included.

If we never made such mistakes then we would never learn. We’d forever be stuck in a negative cycle. That’s why it’s important to highlight these points and to identify ways in which we can change our thought processes, making life a much more positive experience.

It’s only since I had children that I’ve truly been able to accept who I am as a person. I was always too ugly, too fat, too thick or too broad. For as long as I can remember I have succeeded in casting a negative light over myself, thus letting all of my positive points to wither away. I’m only too aware of what negative thought processes can do to a young mind. So now that I have two girls, it’s up to me to show them that there are so many more positives than negatives in life and learning to love our good points is truly the best route to happiness.

 

Here are three major life mistakes that so many of us are making right now:

 

You care too much what people think –

Caring what people think goes hand in hand with being human. It’s good to care what some people think to certain extent, as the last thing you want to do is become indifferent to everyone around you. The trick is to find a middle ground, where you listen to others but only take on the advice that you agree with, or that is relevant to your situation. You will always find people who want to force their opinion on you, but knowing how to nod and smile without taking all of their words to heart is a very adult and humbling way to live.

You view your body in a negative light –

The beauty of our bodies is that we can change them. So if you aren’t happy with what you see, there’s no reason why you can’t take steps to work towards what you feel will be a better you. Whether that’s eating a healthier diet, exercising more or any other healthy ways to make you feel good. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t take stock of all that’s good about your body too.

Take mine for example; I’ve spent years trying to be the thinnest person in the room and making myself utterly miserable in the process. These days though my body is bigger than it used to be, it has dimples, stretch marks and it definitely has more wrinkles that it used to. I have never been happier though and that’s because I choose to concentrate on all that is good in my life. I exercise these days to keep myself fit and healthy, not to be skinny.

You don’t live in the present often enough –

I’m not going to use this section to bang on about how you should take up mindfulness. I do however, love the concept and recommend giving it a go if it’s something you’re interested in. This is simply a prompt to remember to bring yourself back to the present when your mind starts to drift. Don’t get me wrong it’s good to plan for the future and to have a clear idea of where you’re headed, but spending too much time thinking about what’s yet to happen can take you away from the now.

Not living in the present often enough can lead to you missing out on so much. Sometimes it’s just a case of putting your phone down for five minutes and taking in what’s around you. It’s not always easy to achieve, but half of the worries that play on your mind probably won’t materialise anyway, so if you can use the present to distract yourself you’ll save yourself so much stress along the way.

 

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40 Replies to “Three Major Life Mistakes you’re Making Right Now”

  1. Sometimes I care too much what others think, I think that always pops up whilst blogging. And yeah, yeah, I know I need to live in the present more. I used to meditate quite often, now I forget all the time. Maybe I’ll make Feb a month of mediating every day! #Blogstravaganza

  2. It’s amazing how kids change a mindset. I have a tendency to be a negative Nancy about myself… A LOT!! Everyday I try to tell my girls so many positive things about themselves. I want them to be content with their self and know that they are amazing little creatures that can reach the stars if they choose to. Thanks for sharing!! Your posts are always and enjoyment to read.

  3. Lovely post! Hitting my 40’s was a turning point for me. I now couldn’t care less what people think of me; I’m me and you either love it or hate it! That’s ok as it’s your choice. Body….well it’s a bit squiggy but that’s ok too! It likes chocolate and wine, what can I say?! I love mindfulness; it helps me remember that I need to enjoy this moment and stops me always striving to move forward. #blogstravaganza

  4. I spend too much time focusing on the past and need to focus more on the present and the future. As I’ve got older I have stopped caring what others think and it has done me the world of good. I am so much happier that way! #blogstravaganza

  5. Only 3! I am doing good then. I would say one of my strengths is I honestly don’t care what others think of me. My family and my friends love me. The rest can take me or leave me. I won’t change who I am. Good reminder! #bigpinklink

  6. Yup, I’ve definitely found myself struggling with these in the past but at present I probably still worry far too much about what other people think and its something I’m going to try to work on this year. Thank you for sharing with the #bigpinklink x

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